Redefine You and Find Your Inner Peace
This year has brought about many adjustments to families and individuals. Life has changed in so many ways. Marriages have ended and loved ones lost. The world has been in chaos due to the pandemic of COVID, racial tensions, political discord, financial and job crises, and environmental changes.
The holiday season can be one of the most challenging times of the year for many individuals and families. The pain and heartache can feel unbearable. It is often difficult to imagine how you can celebrate when the one you love is not here to celebrate with you. It is normal to feel guilty one moment and laugh the other. The emotional rollercoaster is part of the grieving process.
It is easy to focus on the negativity in the world and not recognize what to be grateful for, such as those little moments that make us laugh or give us joy. While focusing on what we cannot change, it is sometimes easy to forget the things and people we still have. We have memories of yesteryears and many other things to be grateful for today, we just need to refocus our energy and change our mindset. Many have often said to me, “How can I be grateful when I feel so alone?” My response to those individuals is to “focus on ‘you’ and lavish in those moments of peace and joy. You are not being selfish; instead, you are recentering, refocusing on yourself so you can be completely healthy.”
If you lost a loved one, they would want you to be happy at this time. If you are going through a divorce or separation, you are going through a process to reclaim yourself. I strongly advise anyone to have a support system, whether the support comes from your family, friends, or group members, to help you get through the challenging times, especially during the holidays. If you do not feel you have anyone to be with, then give your time and energy to a person or group that is less fortunate than you. Spending time safely volunteering will make you realize just how much there is to be grateful for.
The goal of this holiday season is to redefine you and to find your inner peace. I understand that is easier said than done as you have lost so much, and it sometimes feels impossible to take one more step. The steps you must take are an active process. The course of action is like any other you make in your professional life: decision making, planning, and executing while ensuring you write it down so you can reflect on your progress later. Whatever you decide to do over the holidays, give the gift of “you” to you. This is the time to start new traditions and work on healing. You are worth it. I hope you look back at this holiday season in the future and recognize all the growth you made to improve your mental, emotional, and physical health.